19 reasons why people use sex toys

Reasons, people, sex toys

Designed as tools to enhance your sexual experience, it may be pretty obvious why most people use sex toys. Nevertheless, there is still some fear and uncertainty around these funny little devices we bring into our bedrooms.

While some people may hold an irrational fear about sex toys “replacing” the real thing, once we understand they are ultimately designed to enhance the real thing, and enhance our sexual experiences, we can start to look more closely at the intricate ways they do so.

From pleasure, to exploration, intimacy and health, we will look at 19 reasons why people use sex toys and the benefits of incorporating sex toys into your masturbation routine and intimate relationships.

Let’s Get Physical Intentional

Before you get intimate with your sex toys, a useful practice you can integrate into your pleasure practice is being more intentional. Before using your device, ask yourself why you are using it. By acknowledging your motivation, you can expand your experience to get the most out of it.

For example, if you want to use your sex toy to release sexual tension, write it down or state it out loud before hand and allow what happens to happen.

So let’s take a look at what some of these intentions could be, and what’s so good about using sex toys.

Pleasure

Let’s start with the obvious. Pleasure enhancement is probably the number one reason for why people use sex toys. But there are a whole host of intentions within that category.

For people with mobility issues, access to pleasure may be a little harder than for others. Sex toys offer more pleasure access to those who might not be able to reach their genitals or stimulate themselves for long periods of time. More and more, sex toys are being designed for people with mobility issues in mind, such as the Handi, OhMiBod, and Hot Octopuss.

Sex toys are able to offer a whole range of pleasure sensations. From vibration, to suction, to oral mimicry, to stroking… Not to mention the range of textures. From soft silicone, to cold metal or glass, to realfeel materials. Whatever your flavour, the physical sensuality can be chosen to suit your needs.

Kegel trainers and cock rings are great tools for creating stronger orgasms. Additionally, some toys are designed to reach and stimulate pleasure points that might be a little difficult without. Such as Lora DiCarlo’s Osé. Its robotic finger is able to stroke the G-Spot while sucking the clitoris simultaneously, helping you build up your arousal and create explosive combined orgasms.

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While multiple orgasms are totally possible without a sex toy, the energy needed to keep going might dwindle… Luckily the device (as long as it’s fully charged) will keep going and going and going, until you can’t take it anymore. You can also use sextech for edging and orgasm control, which can contribute to building up arousal for multiple orgasms.

Ever had a nipple-gasm? How about an anal-gasm? Ultimately, the orgasm still happens in the genitals/brain, but sex toys such as vibrating nipple clamps or prostate stimulators can allow you to enjoy orgasms that are created from different body parts.

Exploration

Feeling adventurous?

Sometimes masturbation or sex can get a little bit routine. There’s nothing like bringing a new toy into the fold that can add a little bit of excitement! Like a kid in a toy store, choose something that will change things up from what you are used to and get creative with your pleasure to overcome any boredom.

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With remote sextech these days, you can enjoy public kinky fun. Such as walking around with a remote controlled vibrator in your underwear with no one knowing… Your partner decides when and where you can enjoy or squirm at the vibrations.

For those with a little kink in their step, tying up a partner and edging their orgasms with a wand can be a great way to explore BDSM. Power dynamics can be made even more powerful when you have a prop like an electrostimulating spanking paddle in hand.

When using sex toys, they can really take you out of your comfort zone of what you might be used to, and push you to build your confidence in knowing what you want and how to get it.

Intimacy

As well as enhancing pleasure and a chance to explore, sex toys can be used as a tool for deepening intimacy between people.

It can be easy to not say what you really want in the bedroom and just allow things to happen, but that doesn’t necessarily make for better intimacy. Sex toys offer up an opportunity to create a dialogue about what you want in the bedroom. To have an enjoyable experience, you need to decide which toy you want to use, which setting you like, which body part you want stimulated and how.

Teledildonics allows for people to connect in ways like never before. Whether you are in the next room, next town, or on the other side of the world, syncing up dildos, vibrators, or fleshlights can make you feel like you are right next to each other!

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And if you are lucky enough to be right next to each other, using sex toys while you masturbate can be incredibly hot and intimate. Watching how your partner uses a toy on themselves as they watch you right back, building arousal and racing each other to the finish line.

Sometimes the angles aren’t quite right, and sex toys can allow people to enjoy each other intimately without the awkward discomfort that can come with certain positions and sex acts. For example, you could want to stare deeply into your partner’s eyes while using a hand held vibrator, oral simulator, or masturbatory sleeve on them, and you don’t need to worry about straining your hand, arm, or mouth.

If you didn’t already know, studies show that during sex, cis heterosexual women orgasm only 65% of the time, while cis heterosexual men orgasm 95% of the time, and lesbian women its 86%. This discrepancy, commonly known as the Orgasm Gap, can be closed by broadening our understanding of sex outside of penetration, and incorporating vibrators that can help with clitoral stimulation that most cis women need to climax.

Health

You may not know this, but orgasms can be super beneficial to our overall health and wellbeing. Luckily sex toys are designed for just that.

Picture this, you’re in bed. Your body is tired, but your brain is going a million miles a minute. “Why can’t I sleep!?” You may not have the energy or even desire to masturbate, but a sex toy, which does all the work for you, can help you get out of your head and into your body, helping induce an orgasm that releases all of those delicious endorphins to combat the stress hormones keeping you up… and you drift into a comfy sleep.

Time of the month? Pesky cramps getting in the way of your day? Sex toys with low frequency vibrations can help deeply massage and soothe period cramping, and when you orgasm the muscle contractions can actually help release some of the pain caused by cramps.

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Studies have shown that frequent ejaculation can help reduce the risk of prostate cancer. Particularly using sex toys that massage the prostate not just for pleasure but maintaining good health.

For people who have difficulty orgasming, this study found that the Womanizer was effective in achieving orgasm. Plus strengthening your kegels with pelvic floor trainers can contribute to achieving orgasms.

Neuroscientist, Dr. Nan explains that “orgasms release the chemical DHEA, which helps balance your immune system, promotes bone health, and assists in repairing tissues.”

So there you have it. 19 reasons why people use sex toys, and possibly why you might want to give them ago. Remember, sex toys aren’t the be all and end all of pleasure, but they sure do help make it more fun! So go forth, and be intentional and creative with your pleasure.

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