9 ways to dominate your partner with sex tech

Whether you are living together, or in a long distance relationship, remote controlled sex tech can assist you with your kinkiest fantasies and even strengthen your sexual bond.

Do you want to dominate your partner? Playing with power is sexy. And what’s hotter than having them submit to your every move.

Remote controlled sex toys, also known as teledildonics, are sex toys you can control via a remote with up to 12 meters of Bluetooth control, or via your smart phone or computer with unlimited wireless accessibility.

If you want to get extra creative, you can explore DIY sex tech for BDSM to create your own inputs and outputs… such as shocking systems and fucking machines.

But what remote controlled sex tech is already out there and can be used for this kind of BDSM fantasy.

Remote controlled vibrators

The most common remote controlled sex tech out there comes in the form of a vibrator, typically for vulva stimulation. There are the popular clitoral vibrators that sit in underwear and can be worn discreetly.

Eggs are worn inside the vagina, traditionally used for strengthening your kegel muscles. In more recent years, sex tech companies have added a vibrating motors to bring a little more pleasure to the experience. Some can be controlled remotely.

OhMiBod is known for its remote controlled vibrating devices such as the Fuse, made in collaboration with Kiiroo – also famous for its teledildonics.

Fuse is a rabbit style G-spot and clitoral vibrator, used for blended orgasms. What’s unique about Kiiroo’s products is the bi-directional control whereby it can be synced up to another Kiiroo device via the Feel Connect app. The LED light also illuminates to provide visual feedback.

Many sex tech companies now have their own personalised apps where you can build your own vibrating patterns.

There are a handful of remote controlled anal toys out there including the Hero Club Vibe 3.OH (handheld remote), Lelo’s Hugo Luxury (handheld remote), and app controlled Je Joue’s Nuo V2.

Remote controlled sleeves

The Kiiroo Keon is probably the most interactive sleeve on the market, followed by Kiiroo’s Titan, which is a bit easier on the wallet too.

The Keon is a fully automated masturbator that connects your stroker to a world of interactive content, or a partner’s compatible Kiiroo device. In Manual Mode, the Keon is capable of performing hundreds of automatic strokes per minute – you can vary the speed and depth while in use.

The Titan is a vibrating interactive sleeve. You can connect to your partner’s devices from anywhere in the world and feel every movement they make played out in real-time through the vibrations on your device. Or you can share your pleasure with them using the touch-sensitive pads and control the speed and intensity of the vibrations on their device too.

So there you have it, toys for one-way control via apps, or bi-directional toys that can be synced with other devices. But how do you go about dominating your partner with these products? We have 9 scenarios for you to try out.

Kink etiquette

Not so fast… Before you get started with any BDSM sex, we should give you the low down on kink etiquette.

• Safe, sane and consensual. Any sexual experience involving BDSM should rest on consensual participation. Prior to the activity, scenes should be pre-negotiated (you can use apps such as No Grey), with safe words, such as “Pineapple” to stop it immediately.
• For the submissive. It’s important for the person receiving to know how to give up control and let someone inflict pain and pleasure. Using the breath to mindfully let go of resistance, and be aware of your limits. Use the safe word anytime.
• For the dominant. Learn how to take control, and release your inner dominant. With a calm confidence you can command anything that has been agreed upon. Listen to the sub, if they say the safe word that means stop.
• Sensory deprivation. You can incorporate tools to heighten the other senses, such as blindfolds to restrict sight, and headphones to limit sound. Not knowing what is about to happen can be extremely erotic. Or use hot wax, nipple clamps, and whips for added pain/pleasure.
• The all important aftercare. Most importantly, after the consensual pre-negotiation, is the aftercare. Making sure the submissive is looked after particularly after experiencing heightened pain and pleasure. They’ll probably need water and a cuddle.

Sex Tech Domination Tips for Local Play

To get you started, one of the kink basics is restraint. Tie up your partner with rope, bondage tape or handcuff. If you are using rope make sure to learn some body safe knots so you don’t injure them. You could put them in whatever naughty position you desire!

If you are using a vibrating toy, you can stroke the toy on the body part you want to stimulate, whether that’s the nipples, clitoris, penis, perineum or anus. Or try an alternative erogenous zone, such as the inner thigh, kneck, that will have them begging for more.

Once you have placed the toy where they seem most aroused, use the remote control or app to vibrate or stroke when you choose.

Some of the previously mentioned sex tech have sound controlled features. In particular the OhMiBod Club Vibes, 3.OH for the clitoris and the Hero for the butt. Using the specially designed remote, you can speak, shout or whisper to activate the vibrations.

Bringing your partner to near orgasm and restricting is the ultimate form of control. Only you choose when they can come. Press the button on the remote to build up sensation with more intensity, only to tease them with softer gentler vibrations when they are about to release.

When they finally do orgasm (that is, if you let them), it will be a full-bodied experience.

Sex Tech Domination Tips for Long Distance

We are all fairly familiar with video sex these days, especially if you are in a long distance relationship. Well, remote sex tech only adds to the fun. Have your partner use the toy of choice, and remote control it via the wireless controls on the compatible app.

With toys such as the Esca2 by OhMiBod, you can watch the interactive light sitting outside of the vagina, that lights up on vibration. So you can visually enjoy the experience.

Even when you aren’t playing together, you can spend some time creating patterns via the app to send to them later. They will succumb to every vibration you make.

Perhaps while your partner is doing the shopping, they can wear a remote controlled vibrator. Wherever you are, you can dominate them and humiliate them in public. Their mission – to keep a straight face when they are experiencing your random pleasure stimulations.

Dominating in Cyber Sex

Lovense launched a platform called Lovense Life for strangers to control each other’s interactive sex toys. The mere not knowing who’s controlling your device is kinky enough! The anonymity can also help you channel your dominant side without the fear of being judged. They are a stranger after all.

If you want to enjoy multiple people at once, the platform even lets you join a forum to connect your device or remote to others, all at the same time. Dominate, be dominated. Let yourself go completely.

Have your partner enter the virtual realm and dominate their pleasure while wearing the headset. Or step into a BDSM game and live out your dominant fantasy in this space.

Just remember, when using sex tech, be safe and consensual, using safe words and ensuring there is time for aftercare. The rest of the experience, let go, play with your dominant side, and even have a go at being the submissive one.

You don’t know until you try…

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